When writing about asexuality, trans*, kink, polyamory, etc, I will generally use the language that is common within those communities. I do this for two reasons. Firstly new (usually made up) words arise in minority communities to describe something that they can’t express using existing words, and so attempting to only use common usage words would not do the topic justice. Secondly, is a political belief that minorities should be able to determine the language that is used to speak about their experiences. However, I shall try to put any unfamiliar words or concepts in this glossary, as I go along. This won’t be a complete glossary and far better ones can be found using your search engine.
Ace: Shortened form of asexual
Allosexual: Allosexual: “not asexual” – i.e. a term encompassing all the other sexual orientations such as gay, bi, pan, straight, etc. Also note that there are sexual orientations that full in between asexual and allosexual (e.g. grey-A, demisexual etc). Much of what I write about asexuality equally applies to those people who lie in the middle of the asexual-allosexual spectrum, depending on the context – though often aren’t explicit about this in order to avoid making posts more complicated
Aromantic: The lack of romantic attraction and/or desire to form romantic relationships with other people.
Asexual: The lack of sexual attraction and/or sexual desire towards other people. Within the asexual community various definitions are used and I intend to include all the various ways in which self-identifying asexuals use to describe themselves.
Kink: Activities that include BDSM (bonadage &discipline, dominance & submission, sadism & masochism) and fetishes. May or may not involve sexual acts.
Kinkster/fetishist: Person who engages in kink, and/or is connected with a kink community.
Sex-averse/Sex-repulsed: Finds sexual activity with another person to be unpleasant or a negative experience
Sex-indifferent/Sex-neutral: Finds sexual activity with another person to in itself be neither unpleasant nor pleasant. Can include feeling pleasure from things other than the sexual activity e.g. intimacy or seeing a partner’s pleasure.
Sex-enthusiastic: Finds sexual activity with another person in itself to be pleasurable or a positive experience. Includes wanting/desiring to have sex with another person even when sexual attraction isn’t present